Still Want Your Ex? Here are 10 Ways to Get He/She Back: Expert Ways
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You did the soul-searching, tried the “time apart” thing, dated some other lackluster women, and you've come to a stark realization: 
Things ain’t gonna get any better than this. You made a huge mistake when you let her go.
And now, you want her back.
It’s not necessarily too late to rekindle the love with your ex—but don’t get rash and make any mediocre moves. You want to do this right, and that means re-engaging with an abundance of caution and more confidence than ever. So here are 10 tips on how to approach her for Round Two.

1. Reconnect with a text: 
Sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder—but other times, it causes that heart to seek out another man. Bottom line: Don’t call first. “Try sending a sweet text, not one that will make her think you’re looking for a booty call,” says dating expert Julie Spira. “Think about something that you shared together that might warm her heart.” 

Also Read: Health Benefits of Good Sex: 17 Reasons You should have More Sex
Example: Was listening to the radio and heard that Coldplay song. Brought back memories of the concert together. Hope you’re doing great. If she responds, she may be open to rekindling the spark. And if she responds with an "Ew, WTF," proceed to step two.
2. Take it slow. 
You romanced her once already, but that doesn’t mean you get to go from zero to 60 without even getting behind the wheel. So propose getting together—not moving in together. Says Seattle-resident Adria, who took her ex back after a nasty breakup: “He apologized out of the blue after three months of no contact and was very respectful of me. He wasn't pushy about getting back together, which would have been a red flag in my eyes.”
3. Call her, maybe: 
So far, so good? Great. Suggest a casual date by phone. No texts. No emails. Let her hear your voice and register some sincere effort on your part. “See if she’d like to join you at an art gallery opening, see a movie, or a hike on a sunny day,” says Spira. “It will give you the chance to get together in a relaxed environment, without too much pressure.” 
But remember, accepting your invite is just that—and not a sure sign she wants to get back together. If she turns you down, give her space. “Don’t beg, cry, or stalk her,” Spira says. “If it’s meant to be, she’ll come around on her own time-table.”
4. Tell her you miss her: 
If she accepts your date invite, ease in. Ask what she’s been up to, how work is going, if her dog is still peeing on the couch—whatever. Then, if the date is going well and she seems to be warming up (you know, read the signs) say you want her back. Vulnerability on your part might improve your odds of a second chance; don’t just rip the Band-Aids off every old wound. “Open your heart and see how she reacts,” Spira says. 
“You don’t need to talk about everything that went wrong in the relationship. She knows, you know—keep the conversation light.”
5. Own up: 
If she seems open, and you want to step up for another at-bat, acknowledge your shortcomings. “If you did something hurtful, make a real apology,” Frances says. “It might be wise to see a therapist to clarify what you did and why, and how best to sort of the problem.” Then, no matter what she did, you need to take responsibility for you—and change. 
If you weren’t willing to extend an effort to get to know her friends before, tell her you’d be game for drinks as a group. (Yeah, that’s right. Swallow your pride.)

6. Avoid rehashing the past: 
After you’ve acknowledged the problem, look ahead. “Don’t go down memory lane and hash out all the things you thought were wrong with the relationship,” Spira says. Focus on the positive qualities that brought you together in the first place, like your crazy sense of humor, or the way your laid-back personality complements her type-A tendencies.

Also Read: The Man who Designed Nigeria's Flag: What has the Country Done for Him?
7. Use the friend group: 
Even though you might want a new beginning, you should still tap back into those old loving feelings. An easy way to recreate happy times is to meet up in a safe, familiar environment—like an outing with your mutual friend group. Just make sure you can easily break off from the pack to talk. Alisha, from San Antonio, TX, had an ex take that approach—and it worked. 
“We were telling stories, joking and laughing together. It was comfortable, fun. Then my ex pulled me aside and asked me if we could give things another try. We talked a lot about our futures, and I felt things could really work.”
8. Don’t compare notes: 
Look, forget that relationship hiatus even existed. You both up and went on with your lives while you were apart—but that doesn’t mean you need to talk about what went down. “She doesn’t need to hear about the bad dates you went on,” says Spira,“ or about your conquests either.” Would you want to hear about the guys who took your place? Didn’t think so.
9. Tap into your romantic side: 
While chivalrous acts aren’t the most important thing, they are important. Chocolates, cards and flowers (sent to her office so all her co-workers can get green with envy) are time-honored clichés for a reason: They kind of work. But here’s how to make it a legit, not cheesy, gesture: “Write a love letter,” says Frances. “Tell her why you love her and what it is about her that makes her completely special. It’s OK to rip off lyrics or poetry. Send the letter with flowers. Good, old-fashioned courtship works.”
10. Buy a ring: Relax. 
This advice isn’t for everyone, obviously. But if you’re absolutely positive about this girl, the ultimate bold move has had unparalleled success, says Frances. “Most of the time, the split is about commitment issues, so you’ve got to be coming back with terms she’ll be happy with.” And even if you’re not ready for the ring? 
You can learn something here: You have got to step it up and have a plan for the relationship. Period. No woman will rekindle a romance that’s not moving her forward…at least a little bit.

Men's Fitness

Health Benefits of Good Sex: 17 Reasons You should have More Sex
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For healthy, consenting adults, sex can be great or even mind-blowing. But getting busy with a partner can also have some legit benefits beyond our brainwaves. 
Read on for more reasons to get it on (as if we needed ‘em)!

  This Is Your Body On Sex

The good feelings swirling around the brain during sexytimes are due to brain chemistry, specifically dopamine and opoid chemicals. But the goodness extends beyond our brains. 
Studies have found that regular sex can do way more than make us feel warm and fuzzy.

1. It helps ward off cold and flu.

Researchers found that university students who engaged in sexual activity a few times a week had higher levels of immunoglobulin A—an antibody that helps fight infections and the common cold—in their saliva 
Interestingly enough, the IgA levels were highest in couples who consistently had sex a few times a week, but lower in people who had no sex or lots of sex.

2. It reduces depression and stress.

No need for chocolate: Some studies show that contact with semen during intercourse can act as an antidepressant for women . But don’t worry: Doing the deed has positive mental-health associations for everyone! In general, intercourse can make blood pressure less reactive to stress and reduce overall stress levels .

3. It boosts brainpower.

A study on adult rats found that the sexually active rodents experienced an increase in neurons in the hippocampus—a part of the brain that stores memories—compared to their virginal rat buddies. Not only that, but researchers at the University of Amsterdam found that sexual encounters may improve people’s analytical thinking.

4. It improves overall physical fitness.

If you’re looking for more motivation to hit the gym, consider this: Working out regularly tends to improve our sex lives, and having sex regularly can improve physical fitness. Everyone who’s ever watched an R-rated movie knows sexytime can be quite the cardio workout—in fact, half an hour of sex can burn more than 144 calories. 
Studies have also shown that exercising frequently can enhance sexual performance.

5. It relieves pain.

Gettin’ frisky releases a bevy of hormones that can reduce pain. Oxytocin, the “cuddling hormone” that makes folks want to snuggle up after sex, reduces stress and promotes feelings of calm and wellbeing. 
Sex also releases serotonin, endorphins, and phenyl ethylamine, hormones that generate feelings of euphoria, pleasure, and elation—and make people forget all about that nagging sore muscle or back twinge. Other studies have shown intercourse canstop migraines in their tracks and reduce the uncomfortable side effects of rheumatoid arthritis.

6. It improves sleep.

It’s a cliché that dudes pass out right after sex, but intercourse actually can help both men and women nod off. Feeling relaxed and comfortable are big factors in hitting the big O, so it makes sense that there’s a tendency to want to snooze right after. During and after sex, the brain releases powerful hormones (including norepinephrine, serotonin, oxytocin, and vasopressin), which can trigger the urge to cuddle or just pass out. 
Men are especially likely to zonk out because the prefrontal cortex—the part of the brain responsible for interpreting and responding to new information—slows waaaay down immediately after orgasm in males.

7. It enhances your sense of smell.

Oddly enough, spending some time between the sheets can help our noses do their job even better. After sexual intercourse, the body produces the hormone prolactin, which creates new neurons in the olfactory bulb—the part of the brain that controls how we understand and react to smells.

8. It makes us look younger.

A little afternoon (or morning) delight doesn’t just make you feelgreat; it can actually make you glow! A Scottish study showed that loving, supportive couples who had intercourse three or more times a week appeared on average 10 years younger than their actual age. 
Orgasms trigger the release of the sex hormone estrogen in both men and women. Estrogen improves hair and skin quality, making people look more attractive .

9. It decreases risk for heart disease.

Good news, dudes! Studies show doing the deed actually reduces risk of stroke and coronary heart disease in men 
According to the study, men who had sex once a month or less were 45 percent more likely to contract a cardiovascular disease than friskier fellows. The evidence suggested the men with better overall health had higher libidos and therefore more sex overall, which reinforced their healthy cardiovascular systems.

10. It regulates periods.

Some athletic (hetero) lovemaking once or twice a week can, on a very basic level, make it less likely that Aunt Flow will show up unexpected. In one study, scientists found that women exposed to male sweat were calmer and more relaxed than the control group. 
These women also experienced smaller changes of levels of luteinizing hormone (which controls the menstrual cycle) in the blood. Getting’ jiggy with it also reduces stress, another contributing factor in keeping periods more regular.

11. It lowers blood pressure.

High blood pressure puts pressure on the blood vessels, leading to damage and narrow, hardened arteries. The same effects that endanger the cardiovascular system can also cause erectile dysfunction in men (think about it for a second…) and reduced arousal and ability to achieve orgasm in women. 
Testosterone, a sex hormone power player for both ladies and gents, could be a solution. Studies have shown a link between low testosterone and high blood pressure, while the spikes in testosterone associated with sexual activity might help lower blood pressure  .

12. It improves tooth health.

This one’s a bit of a reach, but bear with us. In addition to sperm,semen contains minerals like calcium, magnesium, and zinc—which are also found in root canal fillings  
Zinc and calcium are also ingredients in most commercially available tooth rinses. We’ll let you do the math…

13. It fights prostate cancer.

The link between frequent ejaculation and prostate health is still up for debate. According to some studies, regular sex “flushes out” any carcinogens lurking in the prostate gland, making it less likely to become cancerous 
But a more recent study showed that very frequent sexual activity in young men (20s and early 30s) could actually increase the risk of developing prostate cancer . Meanwhile, frequent ejaculation in middle-aged or older (50+) men decreased disease risk . In other words, the verdict is still out on this one—though things look pretty good for the older gents among us.

14. It lowers risks during pregnancy.

Pregnant ladies, time to get your groove on. Frequent sexual intercourse—and exposure to semen—can reduce the risk of developing a serious pregnancy complication called preeclampsia(which can cause swollen extremities, headaches, nausea, and even seizures). A protein found in semen, called HLG-A, can regulate women’s immune systems and lower the possibility of experiencing these complications .

15. It makes fertilization easier.

For people trying to get a bun in the oven, there’s no such thing as too much “trying.” A study at an Australian fertility center showed that men who ejaculated daily for seven days had higher-quality sperm at the end of the week. 

The sperm’s rate of DNA fragmentation dropped from 34 percent to 26 percent, meaning it was heartier and more likely to fertilize an egg—probably because frequent sex (and ejaculation) means sperm spend less time in the testicular ducts and are less likely to be damaged over time.

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25 Things About Life I Wish I Had Known 10 Years Ago
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Socrates, considered one of the founders of Western philosophy, was once named the wisest man on earth by the Oracle of Delphi. When Socrates heard that the oracle had made such a comment, he believed that the statement was wrong.

Socrates said: "I know one thing: that I know nothing."
How can the smartest man on earth know nothing? I heard this paradoxical wisdom for the first time from my school teacher when I was 14 or 15. It made such an impact on me that I used Socrates's quote as my learning strategy.
To me, "I know nothing" means that you might be a wise person, but still, you know nothing. You can still learn from everything and everyone. One thing that I like better than learning from my mistakes is learning from other people's mistakes. Over the years, I've been blessed to have great mentors, teachers, family, and friends that taught me about life.
What you will find below is a list of the most important things I learned from other people and books. Some of the lessons took me a long time to learn—but if I had had to learn these things all by myself, it would have taken me a lot longer.
We might learn things quickly, but we often forget them at the same rate—and sometimes we need to remind ourselves of what we've learned. Here are 25 of those reminders that others taught me.

1. Struggle is good.

Never say, "I can't take it anymore." Instead say, "bring it on!"

2. Don't complain.

Complaining is the biggest waste of time there is. Either do something about it, or if you can't, shut up about it.

3. Spend time with people you love.

That's your family and best friends. If you don't have a family, create one. Most people in life are only visitors. Family is for life.

4. Don't start a relationship if you're not in love.

I've done this more than once. You kind of like someone and think, "We might as well give it a shot." Not a good idea. You're either in love or you are not. Don't fool yourself. It's not fair to you or the other person.

5. Exercise daily.

I didn't get this until recently. A healthy body is where you have to start everything in life. If you can't build a healthy and strong body, what can you build in life?

6. Keep a journal.

No, keeping a journal is not for children. It helps you to become a better thinker and writer. "I don't want to be a writer," you might think. Well, how many emails and texts do you send a day? Everybody is a writer.

7. Be grateful.

Say "thank you" to everyone and everything. "Thank you for this beautiful day." "Thank you for your email." "Thank you for being there for me."

8. Don't care about what other people think.

We all die in the end—do you really think it matters what people think of you?

9. Take more risks.

Don't be such a wimp.

10. Pick an industry, not a job.

If you want to become good at something, you need to spend years and years doing that. You can't do that if you hop from industry to industry. Pick an industry you love and start at the bottom. You will find the perfect role for you eventually.

11. Lead the way.

When you find yourself in a situation where everyone looks at each other, it's time for you to lead. You're a leader when you decide to become one. There's no initiation or a title. Just a decision.

12. Money isn't important.

It really isn't. But you have to train yourself not to care about money. Don't become too dependent on the stuff you own; otherwise, the stuff will own you.

13. Be nice.

I don't mean you should be a pushover. You can be someone that doesn't take sh*t and be nice about it. Just don't insult people, think you're better than them, or act like an idiot.

14. Learn every day.

You've got to train your brain to stay alert. You don't have to read a book a day to learn every day. Learn from your mistakes. Learn from the people around you—be open to what they can teach you.

15. Rest before you are tired.

Even if you love your job and every day seems like a holiday, you need to take time to rest. You're a human, not an android. Never forget that.

16. Don't judge.

Just because people make different choices than you doesn't mean they're stupid. Also, you don't know everything about people, so don't judge them—help them.

17. Think about others.

Just be mindful, that's all. We all have families, bills to pay, and our own issues. Don't always make everything about yourself.

18. Give without expecting something in return.

Don't keep score. You will become a bitter person if you do that. Give solely for the joy of giving. If you get something in return, great. If you don't, great.

19. There's no end game.

We, as a species, just are. Don't try to figure it all out. Enjoy your journey.

20. Enjoy small things.

I like clichés because they are true. Especially this one. You know why? Everyone says they know it, but no one lives up to it. They just chase big things.

21. Don't take yourself so seriously.

Yeah, yeah, you're an individual, and people have to take you seriously, I get it. But at the end of the day, we're all a bunch of ants trying to chase the same things. Lighten up.

22. Don't blame people.

What's the point? Do you want to punish them? You don't do that to people. Also don't blame yourself—you're only human.

23. Create something.

Not to leave a legacy (you won't be here to see it anyway), but to be of use. Make music, write a book, build a table—anything. You'll feel good about yourself, plus you give something back to people to use or enjoy.

24. Never look back too long.

Reflecting on the past is only good for one thing: learning.

25. Take action.

Don't just sit there, do something. Without action, there is no outcome.

“I was well-known all over the place. Everybody was calling me Mr Flag Man,” Michael Taiwo Akinkunmi says. (Photo: Al Jazeera)
The famous man who designed Nigeria’s flag, Michael Taiwo Akinkunmi, is still alive but his present living condition is that of a forgotten hero. In October 1959, a year before Nigeria gained independence, He designed the flag and was paid – 100 pounds, equal to $281 in 1959.

Now at 80-years, the living legend now lives in one of the poorest areas of Ibadan. His house painted in colours of Nigerian flag is a distinctive feature in the area and it can only be reached by foot. However, Akinkunmi doesn’t have a car. 

He doesn’t even have a phone. He lives separated from his wife for two decades after his health started deteriorating and now his only companion is his 28-year-old son.

Pa Akinkunmi’s son built a house for his father painted with the colours of Nigerian flag (Photo: Al Jazeera)
According to reports, his health is so poor now that he can’t even remember what his age is. He is unable to remember what he was doing on October 1, 1960 when the flag was hoisted for the first time in history. “Well, I was just pleased,” is the only thing that Akinkunmi can recount.

He was reportedly forced to retire from civil service in 1993 due to his progressive illness, his pension payments were so irregular that he could not even feed himself. His neighbours had to come to his rescue, handing him food and clothes.
Sunday Olawale Olaniran says that when he first saw Nigeria’s forgotten
hero in miserable condition, he started to cry (Photo: Al Jazeera)

He was totally forgotten by authorities until Sunday Olawale Olaniran, then student in the University of Ibadan, managed to track down the designer of the flag in 2006. He says that when he first saw his state he burst in tears.

However, Sunday also says that despite Akinkunmi’s terrible living conditions, he never heard anything negative from the old man. "He would only say 'God bless Nigeria,' or 'Nigeria is moving forward and will keep moving forward'", Olaniran says. He also remembers that when he appealed to the press even the journalists couldn’t believe first that Akinkunmi was still alive.
Michael Taiwo Akinkunmi’s statue near his house commemorates his deed for Nigeria (Photo: Al Jazeera)

In 2008 Akinkunmi was given a cheque of two million naira as fee for his appearance on a TV show. Akinkunmi 's son used this money to build the house of dream for his father painted with the colours of Nigerian flag.

Akinkunmi received his first award from the federal government in October 2010, during Nigeria’s celebration of the fiftieth anniversary of independence.
The very first model of the green and white Nigeria’s flag designed by Michael Taiwo Akinkunmi in 1959 (Photo: Al Jazeera)

Finally in 2014, he received a national honour from then-President Goodluck Jonathan who granted him a lifetime’s monthly salary of N800,000 naira, equal to wages of a presidential special assistant.

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RTD. General Muhammadu Buhari 
I didn’t write these facts about General Buhari but I am pointing to the facts because of my generation and generations behind. 

Also millions of Nigerians who are below the age of 30 and slightly above 30 that constitutes a significant chunk of our general population.



My generation never had privilege to know much about the era of Gen. Buhari. This is ICT generation that is largely ignorant about the event of Buhari era.  These generation(s) can be misled by needless propaganda or misinformed about the Buhari era (1984-1985).

Before being Military Head of State, Buhari had been Governor of one of the Northern States (under Obasanjo’s Military Government) as well as Minister for petroleum. He later served as chairman of PTF under Abacha.

PLEASE CONSIDER THE FOLLOWING UNASSAILABLE FACTS.

1. He birthed and supervised the establishment of our existing refineries.

2. There was no religious crisis while he was Head of State. It started under his successor IBB!

3. In his time as Head of State he reduced inflation from 23% to 4%, by fiscal discipline and a home grown economic team (not achieved under any other era, even military).

4. J.J Rawlings of Ghana took over 2 years before him and killed all the corrupt leaders, while Buhari, only sentenced the corrupt leaders here (Nigeria) to prison.

5. Under his watch as PTF chairman, what he did in road construction in that short period hasn’t been matched by almost 15 years of the PDP rule in Nigeria.

6. Hospitals, Universities and Secondary schools around the country never witnessed as much benefits as they got from the PTF from any government after or before the time of Gen. Buhari.

7. Despite serving in senior capacity in the oil sector, first as minister for petroleum and this petroleum Trust fund, Gen. Buhari has no Gas station, not to talk of an oil rig, refinery or an oil block like so many of our leaders today.

Instead of hobnobbing with the high and mighty he has cast his lot with the ordinary man most of who follow him out of hope and belief in his values.

People who know him have said of him.

“All I need from Buhari is his word, I can take it to the bank." 

8. He is the only politician in the country today who fills rallies without renting crowd or sharing money and food stuff to the public.

*The Kaduna rally of 2 March is eloquent proof !*

9. Buhari refused to collect an allowance while serving as Chairman of the PTF because he
said” since he was already drawing a pension from government, his conscience would not allow him to draw another salary from the purse of the same government.”

10. He is the only former head of state that does not own a property or land in Abuja even abroad.

11. Every attempt to rubbish him through probes in time past end up vindicating him!

12. The man who was asked by OBJ to take over the running of PTF before if was scrapped with aim of probing and indicating Buhari, was the one who ended in being prosecuted for misappropriating $100M of PTF funds Buhari regime was vindicated.

13. Buhari has openly challenged those who accuse him of religious fundamentalism to come out and show proof. No one has come out till today, taken up the challenge.

His personal driver of many years is a Christian from Plateau State.

14. His government initiated the war against indiscipline that made environment cleanliness queuing up, not urinating by the roadside etc. 
these are features of our national life even till today.

15. Buhari as a head of state was locally refining fuel in Nigeria and exporting 100,000 barrels of refined products per day. He never imported fuel. He never increased the pump price of fuel.

16. The Naira had more value than the dollar. #1 was equivalent to $1.4. Buhari did not borrow a dime from any country. The price of fuel was very low. 

17. Buhari signed the contract for Warri Refinery, for Kaduna Refinery, for more than 20 depots all over the country, for laying of pipelines, more than 3200 kilometers and Nigeria did not borrow a kobo for those projects. The Agric industries were booming. Food was everywhere and affordable.

18. Gen. Buhari is a threat to our corrupt leaders because they know what he is capable of doing to corruption and corrupt people when he comes into office! 

- We shouldn’t be surprised why corrupt people would be spreading heinous rumours about Buhari.

- If truly we want honesty and probity for Nigeria, now is the time to start giving support to Our President and stop all the negative words about the current situation of the Country as all He had done during his time then had been destroyed by Politics for over 16 years.

Rebuilding Nigeria out of it's past Political destruction and mismanagement of wealth is definitely not a thing of joke as it would take some time.

Let Us all give Buhari all the support He needs as the President of Nigeria. Nailing Him based on fake stories and rumors would only slow down the progress of Our Great country Nigeria.

God Bless The Federal Republic of Nigeria

Culled:  Comr Shettima Umar.

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